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Mirella Stoyanova's avatar

Cassie,

Querying author and fellow toddler mama here (to a nineteen month old, and side note, it sounds like you're calling your seventeen month old a baby?? but understand: this only diminishes the amazing full-time contact sport that is parenting toddlers, and you have two! But I digress...).

To be perfectly honest, I don't have time to be anything but genuine in my profound enthusiasm for my book, and for finding its advocate (and the advocate for this next stage of my career). My story is too important. I am risking a great deal by publishing it. I don't have time or energy for pretense or to act like an acolyte to ingratiate myself with someone who otherwise doesn't know I exist. While I AM worried that this may mean I don't find an agent, I suppose my hope is that this might help me ferret out those who are only interested in me for the wrong reasons.

I've queried an embarrassingly large number of agents, not because I feel insecure, but because I am singularly focused on finding the right fit. THAT is not cringe. That's strategic thinking. And damn is it tough out there right now when it comes to memoir. I don't think I fully realized the extent of the fear that exists until I really began to scour through various agencies' titles.

The reality is, I can't afford to be anything other than myself in this process. I simply don't have time for the wrong person (and I think that's the important distinction here, because I have LOADS of time for the right fit).

Anyway, I AM someone who cares. It's what led me to write my book. It's what led me to patiently and thoroughly build my craft over years and years and years (and years) and not query until I truly believed my manuscript was ready. But it's also what leads me to not take too seriously the rejections I have received so far. I am confident that the right fit will come and for that I can wait and continue to build my platform, craft, etc. (hell, I'll write my sequel). So if my enthusiasm puts someone off, honestly, I'm probably better off without their interest.

I have faith, but time will tell, whether this ultimately serves me. Still, it's worth mentioning, it's what got me this far...

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Sally Ekus's avatar

I love this post and I’m heeeeere for the enthusiasm! As an agent I always know within minutes of chatting with someone (or the nuanced language they use in a query) if I’m the right agent/we would be a good match.

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